Dear Advice Girl,

My boyfriend says that he likes me, but how can I know for sure that he really cares about me? Are there any special signs?

Signed,
Vanessa

Dear Vanessa,

Aw, you mean you can't just take his word for it?

Okay, okay - here's a cheat sheet. If four or more of these are true, then your boyfriend's being sincere:

1. He calls you as much as you call him. (Or texts you or IM's you or whatever.) If you're the only one initiating the convos, he doesn't think you're worth his time.
   
   
2. He wants you around when his friends are there. If he's keeping you from his pals, there's a chance he sees you as just a booty call.
   
   
3. He's not afraid to hold your hand in public. Hand-holding is just about the girliest PDA there is. If he'll do it for you, he's hooked.
   
   
4. He doesn't mind doing the most boring things with you. Does he only seem to be up for hanging out when your folks are out of town? Or is he cool just coming over to help you organize your closet? That's true love right there.
   
   
5. He doesn't keep you a secret. As in, you're all over his Facebook page. And when you meet his sister, she says, "OMG, I've heard so much about you!" instead of, "Vanessa who, now?"
   
   
6. He's nice to your parents. Guys who are only interested in hooking up always fail this test. They're bold enough to lie to you, but they chicken out when they meet your dad.
   
   
7. He gets jealous when you talk to other guys. If this is the only one you answered "yes" to, then your guy might just have jealousy issues. But combined with the sweeter stuff, it means he's afraid to lose you.
   
   
8. And finally,you can just kinda feel it in your gut. Ladies, listen to your gut. Your gut knows what it's talking about. If it says he's lying, then he probably is.

Love,
The Advice Girl

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